Vanessa Lachey and her husband Nick are gearing up to welcome their second child.
The pregnant television star recently spoke to Parents magazine to share what she has learned about becoming a mom since welcoming 2-year-old son Camden.
And her tips range from traditional fears that women have long felt as well as some wisdom on navigating the world of modern motherhood.
“While pregnant with my son, Camden, I felt guilty because everyone told me about this love I’d feel, and I wasn’t there yet,” confessed Lachey, who is currently expecting a baby girl with her musician husband, Nick Lachey.
“I remember asking Nick, ‘Is something wrong with me? I’ve wanted this my whole life, and I’m forcing myself to have those feelings.’ For me, the love really flowed when I found out the baby was a boy.
That’s when I could finally bond, once I knew ‘it’ was a him.” “Once Camden was born, certain fears calmed down,” she explained.
“I no longer thought, ‘Will I be able to do this?’ My instincts really did kick in.
We stumble and make mistakes, too, but that’s what learning is.
That’s the beauty of it.” 34-year-old Vanessa revealed that her son Camden taught her that patience is definitely a virtue when it comes to raising a little one.
“As a baby, Camden would take about an hour to breastfeed,” Lachey told the magazine.
“By the time he finished, it was almost time to feed again.
A friend reminded me that infants are learning everything for the first time.
So who am I to say, ‘Hurry up and eat.
We have to go?’ I tried to look at that time as an opportunity to love on him.” On the subject of being a mom in the era of Facebook, Instagram, Tumblr, and Pinterest, Lachey advised parents to reject the pressure to live by the habits and rules that other people glorify online.
“With social media, people share mostly their best moments,” said Lachey.
“Don’t feel like you’re not doing enough when you see a mom posting about making applesauce after you bought it.
Ha ha! It’s fine! Just for raising a little human being you should be commended.”